Thursday, September 2, 2010

What's your Body Language saying ?

            You already know that you can communicate with other people by using words and language to express our self. But did you know that you Up to 93 % of communication is non-verbal while only 7% of communication consists of words themselves.

Including tone of voice, eye movement, posture, hand gestures, facial expressions and more, the pressure of body language can especially be felt in emotional situations. Body language usually prevails over words. Body language may provide clues as to the attitude or state of mind of a person. For example, it may indicate aggression, attentiveness, boredom, relaxed state, pleasure, amusement, and intoxication, among many other cues.

Your body and face are always sending out signals to other people, and other people are constantly picking up the signals that you send them. We are all doing this all the time, but most of the time we are not conscious of it.Often we use the term “body language” when we talk about the hidden messages and signals that our body is sending out to other people.Every time you make a face, or roll your eyes, or shrug your shoulders or smile at someone, you are using your face and body to send out signals about your mood and feelings.

No matter what your words are saying, your body language may be telling others that you are pleased or displeased, or that you are bored or tired or sad or angry. You may not mean to let other people know your inner feelings, but they will probably be able to tell from the expression on your face.

When you stand up straight with the muscles in your body very tight and with your posture rigid, you are sending out one kind of message. This tells other people you’re you are tense or angry.

When you sprawl on the couch in a relaxed way, you send another kind of message about your mood. Having a relaxed posture tells others that you feel comfortable in your current situation. You won’t need to say with your words that you are feeling relaxed and comfortable, other people will be able to tell your inner state by seeing the way you move your body.

One of the most basic and powerful body-language signals is when a person crosses his or her arms across the chest. When the overall situation is amicable, it can mean that a person is thinking deeply about what is being discussed. But in a serious or confrontational situation, it can mean that a person is expressing opposition. This is especially so if the person is leaning away from the speaker. A harsh or blank facial expression often indicates outright hostility.

Eye contact is often a secondary and misleading gesture because we are taught from an early age to make eye contact when speaking. If a person is looking at you but is making the arms-across-chest signal, the eye contact could be indicative that something is bothering the person, and that he wants to talk about it. Or if while making direct eye contact a person is fiddling with something, even while directly looking at you, it could indicate the attention is elsewhere. If the person looks from one eye to the other then to the forehead it is a sign that they are taking an authoritative position. If they move from one eye to the other then to the nose, that signals that they are engaging in what they consider to be a "level conversation" with neither party holding superiority. The last case is from one eye to the other and then down to the lips. This is a strong indication of romantic feelings.

Disbelief is often indicated by averted gaze, or by touching the ear or scratching the chin. Boredom is indicated by the head tilting to one side, or by the eyes looking straight at the speaker but becoming slightly unfocused. Excessive blinking is a well-known indicator of someone who is lying. Recently, evidence has surfaced that the absence of blinking can also represent lying as a more reliable factor than excessive blinking.

Hands on knees: indicates readiness. Hands on hips: indicates impatience or possibly the person is angry . Lock your hands behind your back: indicates self-control. Locked hands behind head: states confidence.

Our body language is such an important part of how we interact with other people, that body language experts say the messages we send when we use words only account for 7% of what we are communicating to others. The rest of what we are communicating, the other is conveyed by the way we hold ourselves, the gestures we make, our tone of voice, and the facial expressions we use.

If you want to be successful in your social life, it’s important to understand how body language works. If we don’t understand the secret messages of body language, we could be frightening people away even when we want them to be closer to us. If we understand body language better, we can attract to us those whom we want to attract.

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